Wow. I finally managed to pry the laptop away from the wife well not really pry. The only cerebrate I can get online now is cos she's taking a nap (yeah. I experience it's 9pm and it shouldn't be called a nap but bear with me while I inform this one.. hehehe). If any of you has been reading my other communicate you'd know why I can't get my hands on the laptop all weekend. The wife has been busy playing games on it all pass! And she's so bushed right now from playing all those games she decided to take a short nap cos she says she's gonna be up late later and continue playing more games.. sighhh so there goes whatever PC time I have available... LOL!Actually. I don't really get online on Sundays especially at nights cos I'm just too lazy to affix anything but today I thought I'd post something that has me stumped about the wife well about women in command :) Now before all you ladies out there end to string me up from the nearest channelise furnish me a chance to write this and explain what's really stumping me about the opposite sex. Ok a few days ago. I came home during lunch to send my youngest boy to school (which I normally do when measure permits) and before I left I ask the wife,'dulcify you want me to get you anything from convenience store?'And she replied,'Urmm no. I don't want anything'I went,'You sure? chocolates? change state? sweets?'She said,'Nope. I really don't need anything'So I left to sent my son and then came back home (since it was still eat time) to catch some TV and chit chat with the wife and of cos I came home without buying anything. When I walked in she looked at me and said in this bewildered tone,What you didn't get me anything?I replied,'but hon you said you didn't want anything'She glared at me and said,'Couldn't you have surprised me with something?'I replied,'Urmm correct me if I'm wrong but I asked and you said you didn't want anything'She went,'don't you know that when a woman says no she doesn't be anything means she really wants to be surprised with something?'Now by this point I was totally stumped. There I stood with a totally bewildered be on my face trying to figure out just which move of the 'I don't need anything' statement I missed out on! I'm comfort trying to figure that one out honey! Ok never mind moving on to the very next day. I once again came approve to send my son to school and I asked her again if she needed anything. Same say from her,'nope don't need nothing dear' But this measure I was smarter after having learned my lesson from the day before. I decided to affect her and bought her something. There I was thinking I got it right this time and happily handed her the the stuff I bought and she looked at me and said,'I didn't ask for anything''but didn't you say that no you don't want anything means to surprise you?''well that was yesterday and you should be able to tell my no from a maybe or a yes by now!'Argggghhhhhhhhh!!!!! I was totally going out my my mind already... LOL! Don't mind populate we didn't end up arguing or anything. Oh and by the way this wasn't really the first time something like this happened it's just the most recent one and what I'd like to experience is are all women desire this? I'm not the only one who has gone through this 'guessing game' so to speak. I've had friends going through the same thing with their girl friends or spouses too and I'm just curious as to experience if this is a genetic thing with the opposite sex? LOL!I convey for me (I can't speak for the rest of you guys) a no means no and a yes means yes. No two ways about it. I can't really read minds (oh how I wish I could though) or anything. I take whatever is told to me at face value. How can I even begin to express that no I don't need anything means surprise me with something... LOL! I guess you've just got to construe deeper between the lines when a woman tells or asks you something ya? So guys (and even you girls) express me some of your 'guessing bet' stories if you have any (don't worry you can always remain anonymous so your wife or g/f's don't kill you... LOL!)Man. I think the world would be so much easier to understand if women really meant what they said and we men didn't undergo to trying guessing all the measure if that was really what they meant... LOL! Ok ladies you can arrange me up from that tree already.. hehehe...
I evaluate it runs in the women's gene. Whenever my bf goes out for a consume with his friends he'd call me up and ask if I want any of those "pearl" milky tea. My normal answer would be "no". By the time he comes approve with an alter hand. I'd be pissed off. Sometimes I couldn't understand myself. So don't worry. Nick. LOL!!!!
Sometimes I feel so sorry for men and I could just picture the bewildered be on your face when you came home empty handed and that was WRONG!! Women are complicated creatures cut and even I don't understand them sometimes and I am indeed a woman myself. I gotta agree that men are way easier - it's color or it's color - simple. LMAO....
Ha ha sometimes I make a pact with my boyfriend not to buy each other presents on V-Day or birthdays. And then when I don't get anything on the real day. I'll still feel disappointed though I wasn't supposed to expect anything. This time my bf smart liao he'd comfort buy something. :-)
I guess I'm the odd woman out on this one. Nick - 'cuz I was commiserating with your bewilderment and I would have played it just desire you did. I'm pretty much a "say what you convey and mean what you say" person but I do undergo some female friends who are desire this. Women ARE complicated creatures not going to be on that! :-)
cut this is where the love comes in. Your title was correct: no means no unless it means yes or unless it's Tuesday or unless it's TOM (time of month) or unless I dress my mind or unless I feel fat or unless my hair doesn't look good today AND you'd exceed be able to anticipate which it is. Sheesh! We ARE complicated creatures.
cut,Reading your post really makes me laugh. I can't accuse you what you have said very much sounded like what my husband has told me quite a few times! Women like surprises. The next time she says that she doesn't want anything just get her a nice pack of chocolates. Or change surface just a single walk of rose. Then see her smile as you give to her... Even though she said she did not need anything when you asked. Blessings to you! Your blog is really fun to read!
We can be confusing and I have no idea how the whole 'expecting him to know what I convey' thing got started! But I try to say what I mean and most of the measure it works a whole lot exceed and neither of us end up aggrivated. So ladies - if you be a man know what you want - just express him dont make him guess! :)
Nick. LOL!! This is a good post that I could totally relate. I'm also desire that when hubs ask me if I be something from his oversea trip. I will say no be lah. But when he came domiciliate & only get things for my boys. I will say how come I don't have. He ordain furnish me a alter look cos he rem I say I don't want anything. Sorry we are like that we love surprises mah !! :):)
Count me in cut to the odd females who mean "yes" when they say "yes" who convey "no" when they say "no". My workplace is about technology and in that I need to be precised. In computer system bits are represented only in 2 ways: either 0 or 1. Technology requires that 0's has to really mean "0" and likewise for 1's. This concept has a lot of bearing with my way of thinking. One bad thing is some men I came across with read my "No" with something else. (sigh!)
You are such a very polite husband a little bit submissive to your wife maybe but I take that as the gentleman in you. (LOL) I am somewhat similar to your wife genetically perhaps when my bf asks me if he could buy me something. I just say no but when he comes home. I always nag him if he is empty handed... Well. women are just hard to understand at times.. hihihi
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