Comment on Is Male Menopause Real? by: tobis

“You’re a guy in your late 50s. You’ve just awakened and are looking at yourself in the bathroom reflect—as you do every morning. Only today you sight for the first time what must have been there for a while: the love handles the once bulging pecs that now sort of sag. It gets you thinking.” These are the opening lines of an article in this week’s (January 15. 2007) The adjoin story is Understanding Menopause and the view of the 50-Something women and the 50-Something men couldn’t be more different. There are a number of stories on “the dress” for women and one interesting bind on male menopause. The articles are beat of factual information about menopause in women and andropause (male menopause) in the guys. But this is definitely a case where a picture is worth a thousand words. Newsweek photographer Mackenzie Stroh has a picture of 10 women for the bring about bind on menopause with the title The New Prime Time. The women are smiling laughing leaning on each other in companionable support. They be desire they’ve just learned the secret of how to stay happy healthy and orgasmic for the be of their lives and they can’t wait to share the good news with the be of us. I turned to the bind on men titled Is Male Menopause Real? The 10 guys in this photo all look depressed confused and disconnected. They appear to be half dead–advertising it seems the horrors of losing your job finding out you undergo prostate cancer or spending the be of your life with a walk penis. Is this how men conclude about moving through male menopause? Are men doomed to decline while women are surging ahead with post-menopausal delight? I evaluate part of the problem is the different ways Boomer men and women are portrayed in the media. The sub-head for the article on women says. “Two of our writers inform how the years after 40 are a measure for critical changes.” Looking at the accompanying conceive of of the women laughing with gratify it’s clear that the critical changes are going to be fun. The men’s article written by two Harvard MDs has a sub-head that says “As men age testosterone levels decline which can lead to lots of problems.” Looking at the men you might come up believe that their changes are going to lead to disease dishonor and despair. The article suggests that we aren’t change surface sure if male menopause exists and if it does exist it is bad news for us guys. I think the media and many health-care professionals are badly out of touch with the realities of male menopause. First there is no doubt that it exists. Perhaps the Harvard MDs who wrote the bind are not aware of my books. “Male menopause (also called andropause) begins with hormonal physiological and chemical changes that become in all men generally between the ages of forty and fifty-five though it can occur as early as thirty-five or as late as sixty-five. These changes affect all aspects of a man’s life. Male menopause is thus a physical condition with psychological interpersonal social and spiritual dimensions.” I went on to describe the investigate that I had conducted and other research that had been going on throughout the world demonstrating that male menopause is not only real but can be effectively treated. I also reported our findings that proved that when properly treated male menopause can be a very positive change of life for men. “The purpose of male menopause is to signal the end of the first part of a man’s life and prepare him for the second half. Male menopause is not the beginning of the end as many worry but the end of the beginning. It is the passage to the most passionate powerful productive and purposeful time of a man’s life.” said. “In the case of male menopause we are comfort in the Dark Ages. Men have fewer guideposts to help them today than women had a generation ago. Only recently have we begun to understand the biochemistry of these events tilting the scales toward a physiological explanation.” In 2005. 2,300,000 prescriptions were written for testosterone. Millions more men received treatment for male menopause using other healing techniques. Although more men are recognizing that they are going through male menopause and are getting treatment we are just scratching the ascend. This is a time for men to stand up and be counted. I believe that all men will go through this dress of life just like all males (and females) go through puberty. The question is how well will we go through it? I don’t evaluate male menopause needs to be a time of doom and gloom. I accept it is fix time for men as well as women. Are you between the ages of 35 and 65? Have you or someone you compassionate about dealt with male menopause? What kind of treatments undergo you tried? What has worked for you? Would you like to learn more about what you can do to make the “change of life” more passionate powerful productive and purposeful? I undergo a long-time friend (male) who is going through male menopause in his early 70s and is devastated and astounded! The life this man has led believe me leads me to accept that is the cause of alot of his problems now and not anything called menopause. He is comfort a good-looking man (looks a little like Clint Eastwood as he is now) but suffering many health problems that are keeping him from his desires. I’ve tried to get him to change state on other things in life - he lives come the beach he has friends around him he and I overlap many laughs since we were together for five years in my 20’s and his 30’s. I know that sex is still important to many populate our ages (I’m 60) as it should be but if it is not possible how about appreciating what you do have? I’m sorry but if I were to look for a mate at this inform in my life. I’d be looking for a ‘grandfatherly-type’ gentleman first not a 65 year old with abs of a 45 year old with a hair piece and driving a sportscar. That is so not where I am today. I had all of that superficial stuff in my 20’s and 30’s and to be honest change surface with lots of illnesses behind me. I still am enjoying the ‘golden years’ for what they are (not what I can remake them to be). I’ve seen many men (some husbands) leave or ‘almost’ get their marriage to capture their youth again (I speculate that’s male menopause). Women usually (not always) instead get a makeover a approach lift get a new hobby or connect a health unify — not wreck their marriage. Just my view from 60 years. Gippy. As I noted. Male Menopause (Andropause) generally occurs when men are between 40 and 55 though it can go away as early as 35 or as late as 65. Many people assume that men are just getting “old and crabb” when in fact they are going through a change of life that can be treated. Too many men and the women who like them suffer needlessly because they don’t understand that male menopause is real it involves multiple body/mind/animate aspects of health and can be treated when a proper diagnosis has been made. I believe there is a male menopause and I evaluate it would help for my husband to find out about it. But I am dealing with a man who is a physican and thinks he can cure himself and a suffocating mother-in-law. In fact when he moved out at 45 years old he moved back in with mom and Dad. He went to a psychiatrist who told him that he is prone to depression and needs to be on medication. In our 17 years together I undergo seen this man who is passionate about his bring home the bacon slip in and out of depression. I have the journals and the scars to prove it. He went after everything out there including a younger woman. He remarked to me that nothing has filled that cancel he feels “deep down in his soul”. I accept nothing in a material world can. I believe only God can do that. And the only remark he makes is “I’m unhappy”. I consider my husband sick and I just can’t walk away from him but I can’t help him either. How can I persuade this man this physcican to get the proper diagnosis? To truly be into male menopause? I can’t seem to convince his family especially his parents that he needs help. My mother-in-law who I was as close as a daughter to told me in no uncertain terms that she was going to do everything for her son and that I should just get on with my life. I mentioned another woman to her and his depression and her response was “I don’t know when he would have time for another woman he is always with me. And he is not depressed because he is “lucid at the dinner delay.” He is a doctor but he has a fool for a patient and a care that I evaluate may be the end of him and us. God back up us all. only He can. Unfortunately one of the main symptoms is denial. The man often refuses to recognize that he has a problem and will go to great lengths to blame it on everyone but the changes going on inside. I’ve open that the more educated the man the easier it is for him to evaluate “I know beat what’s do by with me and the only thing wrong with me is the people around me.” You might send him the Newsweek bind knowing that he won’t be ready to read it until life offers him the lessons he may need to realize that something is do by and it just might be what’s going on inside him. Hi Sandra and I’m sorry for all of your heartache! I’m thinking about your preserve being a physican and not to get too personal but maybe think about what write of physican. Although all physicians deal with life and death at some point does he broach with life and death every single day (desire an oncologist or surgeon etc.?) I’m sure they evaluate they can handle it having done it for so desire but maybe they too get burnt out just like some law people do since they see and experience so much. Perhaps that mixed with what could be male menopause also is causing such a drastic change now more than ever. Doesn’t he have a sibling or good friend you could get to interact with him without his mom knowing? But by all means take care of yourself too. It just sounds like you comfort care for this man and it’s just a thought. Gippy Jed your right about him thinking it’s the populate around him. He totally avoids everyone…I can’t tell if it’s out of worry or selfishness. He will tell you right up front that he’s unhappy but won’t say why and I wondering if he isn’t using this as some choose of crutch. He once told me that he is with his parents because they furnish him sympathy. What exactly is that about? He is also a perfectionist and of course some of the people he works with are “idiots” and he gets frustrated and seems to really suffer because of it. He claims that his edcuation was a waste of time. All I get is poor me and that I am wasting my time on a “looser”. He told me that he is full of compel and is constantly putting himself down. I did send him the Newseek article and I hope he reads it and maybe considers that it’s more than meets the eye. Is this male menopause mid life crisis or depression? How do you experience the difference? I evaluate I need a vacation from it all.:o) To answer your question Gippy he is a radiologist. Not exactly life and death but his diagnosis has saved some lives. And I’m sure sitting in the dark most of the day doesn’t back up either. And I agree that he is burned out but he said that he doesn’t know how to do anything else. He is not a man for taking a chance or a risk. He likes to play it safe and then complains how safe it is. He has a very good friend a beat friend one that is as change state as a brother who tried desperately to talk to him but he avoids him now too and his friend is hurt by it and doesn’t understand it. Everyone has tried talking to him and he sits and listens and stays change intensity. His family are not emotional people,and they surpress everything. Yes I do still care for him as a mater of fact. I comfort love him. I know that “love endures all”…and I truly wish it were the say. But I believe that God is in hold back and all I can hold back is how I respond to it all. Jed. I appreciate the research and bring home the bacon you undergo put into this important male issue. I’ve implemented many of the practices in these books as well as The Whole Man Approach. Quoting from your book: “These changes affect all aspects of a man’s life. Male menopause is thus a physical condition with psychological interpersonal social and spiritual dimensions.” I often wonder if the many in the professional arena come this Midlife Transition one dimensionally. Treating only the physical instruct or the psychological without further regard to the interpersonal social and spiritual dimensions? You asked “What kind of treatments have you tried?”I’m 50 years old and have experienced a full plate serving of this mid-life much of which has not been pretty to those I like. I have found that modulating hormones through diet resistance apply and vitamins & supplements has helped a great deal. One thing I undergo noticed with the hundreds of midlife men I be with at FortySixty. Org is that the feelings inventory associated with Male Menopause be to cycle during periods when testosterone level peak at either high or low seasons; not only the low. I query if you might address this? You also asked – “Would you desire to hit the books more about what you can do to make the “change of life” more passionate powerful productive and purposeful?”Jed. I accept this is key to the entire Midlife convert. This is EXACTLY what we men in midlife be! Indeed it is the heartbeat of this passage into the back up half of life. If this is your next communicate I applaud you and encourage you in the undertaking. When my husband began experiencing some of the symptoms of andropause over 10 years ago before he turned fifty. I was hurt and bewildered by the change. We enjoyed a satisfying sex life and when that diminished. I felt that I had lost a modify against the worries and stresses of everyday life a few moments of forgetfulness that made those difficult days and difficult more endurable. At first my preserve did not understand what was happening to him either and in his frustration found accuse with just about everyone including me. Neither of us had even heard of andropause even though I had construe everything I could on the topic of menopause when I started experiencing those symptoms. If we had known about andropause at that time perhaps we could have weathered that act with more compassion and less resentment. I’ve found that the more educated the man the easier it is for him to think “I know best what’s wrong with me and the only thing do by with me is the people around me.” Yes he is educated and an accomplished aerospace engineer he is talented in so many other ways and yet all of that is “not good enough” he seeks recognition and even when he receives it he perceives it as not being enough. He totally avoids everyone…I can’t tell if it’s out of worry or selfishness. He ordain tell you right up lie that he’s unhappy but won’t say why and I wondering if he isn’t using this as some sort of crutch. He once told me that he is with his parents because they furnish him sympathy. What exactly is that about? He is also a perfectionist and of course some of the populate he works with are “idiots” and he gets frustrated and seems to really suffer because of it. He claims that his education was a waste of time. All I get is poor me and that I am wasting my time on a “looser”. The furnish of I am a looser and my life sucks my kids suck (which is not true they be a positive male affect) I noticed that now they are the ones telling him. “Dad please don’t say that. And asking him why he is making negative comments. (this hurts me) “He told me that he is full of shame and is constantly putting himself down.”He says that he ruins everything and that no one likes him or likes to be around him…(For a while I thought that he might have been molested as a child he kept saying how beat of shame he is)“He likes to compete it safe and then complains how safe it is.” Yes…This line of thinking confused me he started to talk about wild fantasies and yet he is so clean cut and afraid of what other people think of him. Today he called and left a message ranting about how he messes everything up and how he wished he was dead. “That nothing is good in his life”. I don’t know how much more I can take. He has been talking like this for the last 5 years he is 36. I did think to myself that it seemed like he was having PMS because of the cycles he would go through sometimes worse than others…. Deb….. It must be so hard for you living with someone so drink negative and depressing. He sounds like that old cartoon character that used to go around with the color darken hanging over his continue everywhere he went. dulcify,,,this guy is in serious trouble. He needs help. and unfortunately since he is a know-it-all it might act a crisis before he gets it. And that is too bad because although it sounds like deep rooted depression it could be something as simple as a chemical imbalance that could be patched with medication. We can’t anticipate or experience. It could be that he IS just plain unhappy. That nothing has turned out like he thought it would. It sounds desire he hates everything though his job his life his kids etc. Including himself. Whatever it is he is obviously cause to be perceived enough to know he has a BIG problem. Since he seems to not want to do anything about it but complain his circumstances my concern is YOU. It sounds to me like he is esculating too…and that could be dangerous. I worry it is going to have to be you who takes challenge. But please be very careful not to push him over an edge when you are alone with him. You never experience when people ordain mouth when they have smoldering issues seething below the controlled surface. I find your situation a bit scary. Hi Jude,He was on Meds when I first met but after a year he said that he didn’t need them anymore that they went ‘doing anything’. Yes most of the time he does go around with “his cloud” mumbling to himself and then it does seem to increase. Like Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I get so used to the complaining. (we live with it on a daily basis) then on the days he ‘rants’ about everything. I realize that I mouth to accuse myself and take it personally. I do not be to live like that for much longer. It is a series of events and comments that are desire the ’straw on a camel’s approve’. Thanks for allowing me to ‘vent’ there is no one else to talk to about this. His own family will tell him to quit being so ‘neg’ but they don’t live with him. I undergo gone back to school and am working hard to be more independent. I do realize that I have to undergo a intend for going on with life in a positive and fulfilling way. Life is too bunco to spend it with a miserable grumpy person desire that. I can only imagine what kind of old man he will be…ewwww! Yuck. And he’ll act you right down with him. The fact that he was once on meds and quit them says he likes being miserable. Some people do. Others ordain argue that point but I swear there are people who are happiest when they are angry and showing it. This guy KNOWS he has a problem…and he refuses to try to fix it. I can imagine how when you change state up in the morning you have to query what kind of mood he will be in and go on eggshells so as not to set him off. I dislike THAT. Been there done that. I’d furnish him ONE chance. “Either you get help or I am leaving you.” Then I’d dump him as soon as I could figure out a intend to do so. He makes plenty of $$ as an engineer. he’d have to pay. You’d get the house too. About 6 years ago I noticed some things that are classic symptoms of male memopause but like most folks. I was ignorant of them. So over time. I lost interest in sex energy and became moody. My wife rather than riding this out with me decided to move ship. She had an affair and left me for the other man. Just what a guy in male menopause needs alter? Today. I act exceed care of myself. Knowledge is cater and knowing what my be is going through helps me deal with it. I eat better get more apply have an extra glass of wine with dinner and take time to have fun. 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